A friend of mine recently made a very wise statement to me: "Never forget where your joy comes from," she said.
Too often, adults subsitute distraction for joy. We're so bogged down at work or worried about our
children or distraught over the state of the world, that temporary relief from that stress feels like joy. So we mindlessly watch TV or shop at the mall, but it's not the same. We have forgotten the wisdom of our childhood. For most of us, childhood was a moment to moment proposition from which we did not want to be distracted at all. Not by our parents, not by school, not by anybody. Our joy was intense and immediate.
Never forget where your joy comes from.
Tuesday, I was working out at Extra Innings at a time when about fifteen, 8-12 year old boys were attending the December Vacation Clinic. When the instruction was finished, a whiffle ball game ensued. With the happy sounds of play emanating from the tunnels, I couldn't help but wander over to watch the action. At one point, a boy was racing around the bases. An instructor had the ball and was moving toward the third base side of home to apply a tag as the boy made an ill-advised dash for the plate. As the instructor went to make the tag, however, the boy, without hesitation made a head first slide into home--along the rough indoor turf--avoiding the tag and scoring a run. An out-loud laugh passed my lips at the same time that tears came to my eyes. There was something about the way that boy reacted to seeing the fielder with the ball . . . I knew he was going to slide, rough turf or no. It's what I would have done. That's what made me laugh. In that instant, I felt what he felt; his joy was my joy. And it was not metaphorical. It was real. Unbeknownst to him, he had given me a gift of pure joy and it was overwhelming in a good way. That's what made me misty.
For me, baseball has a way of distilling the years until that pure, sparkling childhood is left. When I'm
talking to 87 year old coach-extraordinaire, Mo Weber about the game, neither of us are aware of the 34 years that separates us. In fact, we're the same age, it's just that Mo has seen more games. None of the Extra Inning staff has ever asked me, why at 53 years old I show up and do a baseball workout once a week. They don't have to ask because they know why. It's a time in which I can renew my joy, a joy that they are quite familiar with, a joy that is a great age equalizer.
Never forget where your joy comes from.
True childhood joy never dissipates. In fact, it increases when one learns to share it and ultimately to give it away. I'm so fortunate to broadcast New Market Rebel games on the web because I not only get to talk to the players and then watch them play, but I also get to "give" that night's game to the listeners. I want them to not only see the plays, but also to smell the onions frying below, to feel the breeze waft across our broadcast platform, to listen for Molly the Rally Dog, barking in the background, to enjoy sitting with Charlie, Jay, Noah, Kevin, Andrew, C. B. and me at a ballgame. Sure, their "seat" may be in Baltimore or Kansas City or Arkansas or California (and we had regular listeners in all four of those locations last season), but if they receive joy from the broadcast, then my joy is increased in limitless fashion.
Never forget where your joy comes from.
This entry isn't really about baseball. It just seems that way because the examples are personal. For you perhaps joy comes from singing or woodworking or tracking the stars; dancing, painting, teaching, sewing; working on cars, taking walks, studying history or literature or mathematics. Whatever it might be, never forget where your joy comes from.
And never forget to give it to others.
May the New Year be a joyous one for you and yours.
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